Having a healthy marriage takes work, particularly for those of us who are busy professionals building successful careers. Add kids to that equation and “work” might begin to sound like another "four-letter word"! 🤣
But healthy marriages are what God desires for us. The marital relationship is designed to emulate Jesus’s love and relationship with the Body of Christ. Our task is to “be fruitful and multiply” not just by having kids but to be blessed and bountiful in everything we set out to do – including growth in our careers.
Though it does take work, let’s work smarter – not harder – to have a healthy marriage where love, grace, and peace abound. Here are four (4) fail-proof tips for married professionals to consider:
Pray
Keep God first in all things! Never stop praying – no matter what. Pray with, for, and about your spouse. Ask God for what you need and be bold enough to believe that He’s going to respond in your favor.
Prioritize
When your priorities are out of whack, so is your life! In my household, it’s my relationships with 1. God, 2. my husband, and 3. my children...in that order. It’s important to nurture each of these relationships, and your marriage should definitely take precedence over your career and personal ambitions. Of course, focusing on your personal life goals is important too, but don’t selfishly become so engulfed in yourself and what YOU want that you forget about those you love the most. Remember that your legacy will really be about how you loved, how you gave, and how you lived. What you do for a living will probably be a one-liner in your obituary, and your organization will fill your position as soon as you leave it. Instead, invest more time in what matters most – the people and relationships in your life.
Plan/Prepare
What is your life plan with your spouse? What are your goals? How are your finances? What do you want to achieve together? What are your household’s needs? I believe that there should be a balanced focus on planning for tomorrow and living for today. Communicate often about everything. Work together to align your individual, personal goals into a holistic family plan and support each other through it. At times, you may need to sacrifice to ensure that both of you are successful, but that’s what love is willing to do – sacrifice.
Play
Have sex. 😍 Rest. Rejuvenate. Do something fun! Take time to reconnect and rekindle if life’s daily grind has gotten you a bit side-tracked.
My mom always said that your marriage is like a garden. As long as you tend to it, it will be healthy, and it will grow stronger. However, to destroy a garden, you simply stop taking care of it; there’s nothing else that you need to do except stop paying attention to it. It’s guaranteed to die. So, tend to your garden and give it the attention that it needs to flourish.
Never, ever put your career before your spouse. Ultimately, if you’re blessed to grow old, your children will have grown and you’re likely to retire from your career, but you made a commitment until death with your spouse. Invest in your spouse more than you invest in your career, and your career is likely to follow suit. Strive for a #HappyWifeHappyLife AND a #HappyHusbandHappyHome as you invest in what matters most on your journey to live richly every day.
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